BDSM Lifestyle Protocols
I have word protocol a lot in the BDSM world and fetish scene; protocol for this, protocol for that. When I first read about this it was very daunting and initially I was unable to comprehend why such protocols would be in place.
I understood that everyone one and every relationship is different and that each couple or poly household adopt protocols to suit the type of BDSM relationship they have. I read that it could be defined as a set of special rules to follow in many different situations within your fetish or BDSM lifestyle; and that these special rules remind you of your place in the relationship.
When I was starting out, I was given a set of rules and instructions, protocols that I was to follow. Some of those rules were to:
- always address my Mistress as ‘Mistress’
- write in a daily diary
- when entering the house to remove my public/dress collar and put on my service collar on at the door
- after putting on my service collar to proceed to bathroom and change from my clothes public clothes into service clothes
- I was not to sit on any furniture anywhere (unless given permission)
This set of rules or protocols were a constant reminder of my place in the relationship and I found some of them to be embarrassing, humiliating, and exciting all at the same time. It was good for my mindset. I had read and heard of many BDSM lifestyle protocols and here I was very happy and excited finally doing what I loved to do.
